Ms Right or Ms Right Now: Are You Just Afraid of Being Single?
Boom. This is one of the nastiest realizations someone can make about their relationship, but it is the cold reality for many people today. In this modern age where young people suffer from extreme peer pressure, there is a major stigma against those who do not have someone to call their own. The so-called "single life" is something that many want to avoid like the plague.
If you have ever been single for a long time, you know how annoying it can be. People keep asking questions, making jokes, and silently judging you. Even family members will join in at times. It's not surprising that many people would rather stay in a bad relationship than constantly deal with that.
Is she Ms. Right, or Ms. Right Now?
Your heart doesn't skip a beat when you see her. Dates - which become increasingly generic each year - feel more like a boring duty than a chance to have fun. Every time she opens her mouth, you practically find yourself dozing off. And when you hang up the phone after saying good night, you feel a sense of relief and freedom.
Little things like these are the telltale signs of a forced relationship, and it signals that you don't really care about her at all. While it is normal for couples to become somewhat less "lovey dovey" over time, they should still feel excitement and happiness from being together. Otherwise, what's the point?
Most will desperately deny it and stay in their fake romance, but this will only lead to disaster down the line. The consequences of a loveless or one-sided relationship are serious.
Hurting the One You (Pretend to) Love
Pretending to love someone for the sake of being in a relationship is one of the worst things a person can do. It is disrespectful to your partner and to yourself. Because you can only keep up the act for so long, you will fail to give her the love and care she really needs. This will lead to constant fighting, bitterness, and many wasted years.
You might also end up sacrificing your own happiness. Imagine that the time comes when you actually meet someone who leaves you breathless, but you are already married and have kids; what will you do then? It is always better to nip this problem in the bud before things become that serious between the two of you. The longer you put this off, the more difficult it will be.
Should You Stay, or Let Go?
If this article rings true, then you are probably wondering what you should do next. Should you attempt to rekindle the old flame (if there ever was one) to salvage the relationship? Or will you come clean, and break things off before the two of you just end up hurting each other?
Sadly, there's rarely ever a clean and easy answer. Whether your relationship can still work out depends on many factors. Maybe she is forcing herself too, and a break-up would actually be a relief for both of you. Or perhaps you actually do like her, but are just confused about your feelings; every couple has their rough times, after all.
Regardless, you can't accomplish anything unless you think long and hard about this, and then talk to her about your future together. It is good that you have acknowledged that something needs to change, and it can open the door to a much happier life for both of you.