Get a Hint!: Telltale Signs You're Hanging Out With the Wrong Crowd
It's like high school all over again. At work, there's a bunch of cool kids, and all you want is to become one of them. They gladly accept you into the brotherhood. Later on, you realize that their interests and hijinks are not right up your alley. But, you can't bring yourself to leave them-the people around you think you're a cool kid now and you don't want to stop being perceived as one. The repercussions of your insistence to stay in the group may come sooner than you think.
In the brood (or gang, brotherhood, or whatever you want to call it), there will always be someone who will stand out. But, sometimes the way he gets thrown into sharp relief is awkward; he becomes memorable for the wrong reasons. This is what happens when you get into the wrong crowd.
Being part of the wrong group is one big waste of time. You deprive yourself of the fun you deserve, and it may alter the way you view yourself. You'll not grow. More often than not, you'll find yourself disappointed. Once you recognize that you're the orange in the bunch of apples, don't hesitate to jump off the basket. Here's how to find out if you're that orange:
THEIR INTERESTS ARE NOT RIGHT UP YOUR ALLEY (OR THE OTHER WAY AROUND)
You like Pusong Bato while they listen to the likes of Passion Pit and other bands you're sure you haven't heard of. They like Pulp Fiction while you're a big fan of My Big Fat Greek Wedding. You get the idea. Much has been said about how differences make friendship work, but it's not always the case. There are friends who have entirely different interests, but they agree to at least one thing. If your interests don't match with theirs or the other way around, both parties will find it awkward to strike up a conversation, especially if none of you wants to adjust.
YOU MAKE CHOICES YOU DON'T MAKE BEFORE
...and it's not in a good sense. If you're with the right sort of people, you'll be comfortable to do things you want. Otherwise, you'll be forced to adopt their habits so you won't be cast out. You feel compelled to smoke or drink more just to hang out with them. You get yourself a girl, though you don't like her enough, at their behest since everyone else in the group has someone to bring with them in gatherings.
STRESS ALWAYS STRIKES UP
Being with the people you consider your pals should be stimulating. It should be something worth looking forward to. But, if being with them constantly stresses you out or makes you want to shut them out, don't hesitate jumping off the ship.
Wrong friendships, especially in the domain of men who have egos to boost and protect, can be a source of stress and other anxieties. More often than not, these relations cannot be salvaged, and walking away is the only resolve you have.